What I can change, what I can't

Sort what's stressing you into what you can change, what you can influence, and what you need to accept.

About 10 minutes · 6 questionsCBT · Stress and coping

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Anxiety, stress & panic~10 minCBTStress and coping

What I can change, what I can't

Sort what's stressing you into what you can change, what you can influence, and what you need to accept.

Why this helps

Coping works best when it matches the problem: action for what you can control, acceptance and emotional coping for what you can't (Folkman & Lazarus). It's the same wisdom as the Serenity Prayer many people in recovery know by heart.

1. Everything stressing me right now

2. What I can change — and one action for each

3. What I can influence but not control — and how I'll use my influence

4. What I can't change right now

5. How I'll take care of myself while I live with those

Talk it through, pray, write, rest, take it a day at a time…

6. The first action I'll take today

Keep your answers somewhere safe

This worksheet, online and private, on Amity Connect — free for individuals, built by the same team. Your answers stay yours; if you're with a recovery home that uses it, they can assign it to you and see only what you choose to share.

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About this worksheet

It comes from the Amity Connect workbook, built by the same team as RecoveryHome, and is free to print and share. It's for reflection and practice — not a diagnosis, and not a substitute for professional care. Content is never written or edited by advertisers. If you're in crisis, call or text 988.

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