My son says he doesn't have a problem. Everyone else can see it.
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NewLeaf_Linda
asked 3 days ago
He's 26, living at home again, and it's meth. He gets furious if I bring it up. I don't want to push him away but I can't keep pretending. What worked for your families?
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CarolJ
Helpful answeranswered 3 days ago
Three things that helped me survive this exact spot: (1) Stop having the big confrontation — it hardens the 'no.' Look up CRAFT (Community Reinforcement and Family Training) — it's an evidence-based approach for exactly this: staying connected while not funding or shielding the addiction. (2) Decide your boundaries when calm, say them once, and hold them kindly — boundaries are what you will do, not threats about him. (3) Get YOUR support now — Nar-Anon or a family group — because you can't pour from an empty pitcher. People do come around. It's rarely from being argued into it; it's from consequences arriving while the door to help stays visibly open.
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DecidingDad
answered 3 days ago
The sentence that finally landed with my daughter, months after I said it: 'I love you too much to pretend this is fine, and the day you want help, I'll drive.' Then I stopped arguing. When she was ready, she knew exactly who to call.
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