How do I take care of myself while someone I love is in active addiction?
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asked 2 days ago
Family members often put all their energy into the person who's using and run themselves down. What does self-care look like in practice?
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RecoveryHome team Team
answered 2 days ago · general information, not medical advice
You can't control someone else's addiction, but you can protect your own health. Families who look after themselves usually help their loved one more, not less.
Practical steps:
- Get support for you. Groups for families of people with addiction meet in person and online, and a counselor who works with families can help.
- Keep your routines. Sleep, meals, work, exercise, and time with friends matter.
- Set a few boundaries that protect your money, home, and safety.
- Learn about addiction and recovery so you aren't relying only on what your loved one tells you.
- Plan for emergencies. Keep naloxone at home if opioids are involved, and know who you'd call.
- Watch for your own warning signs, such as depression, anxiety, or drinking more yourself.
If you ever feel overwhelmed or unsafe, call or text 988. It's for family members too.
Read more: After a relapse: a family playbook
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