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How do I talk to my kids (8 and 11) about their dad being in treatment?

Family & friends2 answers · asked 6 days ago
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LauraB
asked 6 days ago
He left for residential on Tuesday. The kids know something is wrong. I don't want to lie to them but I don't know how much truth an 8-year-old needs.
CA
CarolJ
answered 6 days ago
Helpful answer
Kids do better with simple truth than with mystery — their imaginations fill gaps with worse. Something like: 'Dad has an illness called addiction. It makes his brain very sick around alcohol. He's at a special hospital learning to get better, because he loves us.' Then the three Cs, which family programs teach for good reason — they didn't Cause it, can't Control it, can't Cure it. The 11-year-old may ask harder questions; answer honestly and briefly. And ask his treatment center about the family program — many include kids' sessions with people trained for exactly this conversation.
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FirstTimeWife
answered 6 days ago
We're living a version of this too. The school counselor turned out to be a quiet ally — worth a heads-up call so the kids have a safe adult during the day.
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