How do I talk to young children about a parent being in treatment?
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asked 3 months ago
When a parent goes into residential treatment, children usually know something is wrong. How much truth do younger kids need, and how do you explain it?
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RecoveryHome team Team
answered 7 days ago · general information, not medical advice
Children usually do better with simple truth than with mystery. Their imaginations fill gaps with something worse.
Try language like: "Dad has an illness called addiction. It makes his brain very sick around alcohol. He's at a special hospital learning how to get better, because he loves us."
Many family programs teach the "three Cs": kids didn't cause it, can't control it, and can't cure it. Say it more than once.
- Answer older children's harder questions honestly and briefly.
- Keep routines as normal as possible.
- Ask the treatment program about its family program. Many include sessions for children with staff trained for this conversation.
- Consider a quiet heads-up to a school counselor, so your child has a safe adult during the day.
Read more: How to talk to a loved one about addiction
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